Choices

Choices, this can be about so many things, when in solo life. Choice to eat & well, or pluck at fruit or the worse other sweet things... no one monitors one's behaviour so our standards are set by ourselves.
We can go to bed early & rise late, but if it is a cup of tea in bed..you need to get up & make it & take it back to bed.. breaks the spell a bit.

Our social engagements are totally our decision, except when some folk think because we are single we are in need of all sorts of comapany... that a drop in centre becomes somes mentality... or you will look out for old Mr or Mrs so & so because you are ALONE !
Hello... because we are ALONE we need that time to do all the chores & to sit occasionally with a good book, not take care of other's responsibilities...
so then we are labelled as SELFISH.. I say so be it as it takes me a mountain of effort to be "selfish"
A majority of my single friends run businesses.... often alone... and successfully so. Often very balanced in that thought region, ego firmly intact & not needing to dance on some stage under bright lights..which is a moment not a lasting feel...& leaves many empty without any sense of self....

Pears this day

Morning . Pears today .. marked a little but shaped in elegance..
The following colouring book look is a gem conversation from a fellow traveller...

As I was ambling through the bush on Sunday I was thinking about love - and life!! And then I read your new blog this morning, which I love, and will follow with interest !
YOU said a lot of what I was thinking - I have made my life what it is and I am pretty happy with it - it's not about being independent is it ? - it's about owning your life.

I feel like I do own my life, okay, some of my decisions have maybe not always been the best, but they are all part of living it aren't they ?

But I really like the bit your wrote about sore arms and shoulders sometimes when the load is a little heavy - yeah!
Sometimes it is, but you know what I really like, is that we always manage to carry the weight of whatever is burdening us, get through it, and that's really powerful I reckon (even if there are a few late night tears!).
I wouldn't swap life for something less meaningful, even it is does mean no warm chest occasionally to snuggle up to.
I will only settle for a warm chest that loves me to bits!

Only a few strawberries left

The morning is cold, dull and I am restless... I want to wander through life's thoughts and maybe have a theme... bit like putting a dollop of cream on the strawberries...

WOMEN WHO LIVE SINGLE LIVES, well no I may want to include men in this topic also... we'll see.

I have met & walked along side many single friends & aquaintences.... we are often restless... as well as often content.... isolated... standing alone.. but many many are focussed on making sense of the life they find themselves in.
I discovered this in those early seasons of aloneness, when the walls closed in & I felt so wretchedly alone... where the tears fell in copious amounts all day..where one's heart broke.
I guess one can go on like this & fall into a sodden pile on the carpet of the alien house one finds one in... friends of warmth are all far away... no-one near you knows you or you also will keep a guard up... so they will never know ...
Often we are spoken of as INDEPENDENT.... how I hate that description... my friends & Ie have often had discussions on this topic & the only reason we appear independent is there just isn't anyone here to wheel the garbage bin out or nip up to buy a litre of milk during a chef's extravaganza... or dare I say it... some soft chest to cuddle into for a moment..just to catch one's breath...

But we are STRONG ... as life has strengthen us to a point we never were expected to reach, we have a little backbone... stiff & rusty it feels at times as the weight we sometimes carry is heavy... or our arm gently holds another up for a moment as they trip over their feet... we laugh...
We share special moments....

Welcome to a bird sings...

WELCOME... to my new song.
I love the strength in the colour red & sometimes we need little symbols of strength to walk along with us on our life's passages... so this morning I begin my day with RED strawberries.. here have one I have many to share....